You are a great Mom

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Ever notice it’s easier to list the many ways you may be failing as a mom than to point out all the ways you are doing a great job in the motherhood department?  Do you find it hard to say you are a great mom and even harder to say it without uttering a single BUT in that sentence?  Why are we so conditioned to focus on our flaws?

I will admit I’m not the most humble person out there especially with my inner circle, and yet when it comes to motherhood I have second guessed myself left and right.  I rarely say “I rock at this” without a BUT following that statement.  I bet you do the same except you probably don’t even use the words “I rock.”  Well guess what?  You do.  You rock.

I’ve gotten to virtually meet many amazing moms in online support groups and as a blogger, and I know some personally; women who are warriors and conquer every day despite personal struggles.  Moms dealing with long-term medical issues, or challenging kids, or autism, or postpartum, or who are doing it all alone.  Twins moms with multiple kids who are constantly doing a juggling act and still find a way to laugh and help others.  I’m in awe of all these moms, and it reminds me that some of us have it much harder, and those moms need all the encouragement they can get.  The one thing that binds us all together is our constant struggle to do the best we can.  Yet we judge ourselves harshly.

With Mother’s Day fast approaching, we should use this time to reflect on all the ways we rock at this motherhood thing, because well most days, I think we all do, one way or another.

So I challenge you all to tell me why you are a great mom without uttering a single BUT in your sentence.  Here is my attempt and the top 10 reasons why I think I’m a great mom.

1. I enjoy it.

I went through a lot of heartbreak to earn the mommy title so I don’t take it for granted.  My infertility struggles gave me a profound appreciation for motherhood, I wear my mom badge proudly.  Do I miss getting out of the house at the drop of a hat?  Yes.  I just don’t miss the person I used to be pre kids.  That person didn’t have a purpose, she always felt like she was missing something.  As a mom i feel more complete.  It also helps that my twins are at a fun age, that sweet spot between babyhood and the terrible twos.

2. I’m a reluctant chef.

I hate cooking with a passion.  I wish I had inherited the ‘I love spending hours in the kitchen dirtying every pan on sight’ gene.  Alas it’s not there, not even an ounce.  For my Twinkies I am willing to become a chef and cook elaborate meals that I would have never attempted before they came along.  Although right now they are not exactly enthusiastic or thankful about this particular sacrifice of mine, those little ingrates!

3. I willingly became a milking cow.

And I’m still milking away!  Had someone told me I would be nursing this long I would have told them they were crazy.  And yet here I am still doing it.  I’m proud of this accomplishment especially considering all I went through to make it happen.

4. I’m playful.

I love playing with my sons. Tickling them, chasing them, playing hide and seek or horsey (I’m usually the horsey), and generally just hanging out on the floor with them.

5. I’m silly

I will do anything to make them laugh. I will make funny voices when I read a book or just in general. I love it when I stumble on something that has them laughing silly. Like the time I sang the alphabet in a mock opera voice, Ian was in stitches. Or the time I made silly faces and Sam was almost crying he was laughing so hard, there’s even a video of it.

6. I take them out.

Even though it’s a production and a half that ends up with me drenched in sweat, rushing like a mad woman to get them fed, changed, dressed to get out the door, and then rushing back home to make sure they don’t miss their nap and well let’s be honest to avoid double meltdowns; I still get them out of the house.  It would be easier to stay home especially when the effort to get out takes longer than the time we are actually out, but I love seeing how happy it makes them.  Bonus points, mamma can get herself an overly priced fattening Starbucks Frappucino along the way, thank God for drive through!

7. I make memories.

I love planning weekend outings and family vacations.  Our first one was to Mexico and they were 15 months old at the time.  We are planning on taking them to Portugal this summer.  It’s not easy to travel with toddlers but it’s worth it, especially when it exposes them to other cultures and teaches them to be flexible and adapt to changes and new environments.

8. I write about them

I record all the milestones and the firsts.  I’m extremely lucky that I get to be there for all of these, and I want to capture it all.  I’m that over sharer on Facebook that will post a million posts about my twins because I don’t want to forget a thing.  When they are 10 years old and want to know about their babyhood and mamma will be in her 50s and probably going senile, I want to be able to look back and show them with a few simple clicks of a mouse.

9. I’m a mammarrazi.

I take so many pictures throughout the day, you might as well call me mammarrazi!  There is not a moment I don’t try to capture.  Can you guess how many pictures I have taken to date?  I’ll give you a hint, it’s way higher than 5000.  In fact, the number is so high that my MacBook Pro is slow as molasses!

10. I show my love

Seems like a no brainer but I think it’s an important one.  I tell them I love them every day.  I constantly kiss and snuggle them, especially when i know there will come a time they will want nothing to do with mamma, so I soak it all up while I can.  When they learn something new I praise them, I want to make sure I only encourage and lift them up.  I want to show them what affection is and raise them to be sweet caring men.

That’s my list, what’s yours?  I would love to hear your top 10, or top 5 or whatever you would like to share.

Remember ladies we are all great moms no ifs and buts about it!

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12 thoughts on “You are a great Mom

    • Liz Farris Post author

      🙂 Oh I hated pumping with a passion, I only did it at night. I was so happy when I was done with the pumping part.

  1. Susan Croox

    I personally am very proud of my accomplishments! I have a lot of room to grow, but seriously, I’m a rock star.

    • Liz Farris Post author

      That’s what I love hear. Rock on!

  2. Shannon M

    Hummm, word’s I don’t usually let cross my lips; what makes me a great mom?
    Perspective – Which means I don’t sweat the small stuff.
    Experience – My kids are old (9, 27 and 23) so I’ve likely been there and done that!
    I work – seriously, makes the whole Motherhood thing way easier, at less for me.
    I’m silly – not afraid to make an ass of myself in front of my kids…and while they roll their eyes, they love it.
    I forgive and forget – too easily sometimes, but we all screw up, and frankly I’d rather have it be while they live with me than when they are out on their own!
    Phewwww – wasn’t sure I could do it! Thanks for the challenge.

    • Liz Farris Post author

      Thanks for sharing your list 🙂 You sound like a zen Mamma, thumbs up!

  3. Marie (A Simple Living Dream)

    This is a tough one I think for all women in general whether it be about Mommy things or just about things they do in general. I’ve always been real bad about second guessing myself. I’m gonna give the list a go anyway…

    1. I’m an amazing cook!
    Even though I copy recipes I make some my own way and the family always loves what I cook. I love the compliments and also seeing my kids love vegetables and trying new foods.
    2. Hugs and Kisses
    We are a hugging family, I love our group hugs and that our kids will always know we love them even after it’s no longer “cool” anymore! The baby gets so many kisses it isn’t funny. <3
    3. I like to play games
    Even though I have some rules about video games, I like them and will play games like Just Dance or something two player like Peggle with our Son. I think it's good bonding time and who doesn't love a friendly competition between family members!!?
    4. I like to laugh and joke around.
    I am the most comfortable around my kids, they never judge you and even if they do make fun of how silly you look dancing around like an idiot it doesn't matter because you know they love you anyway. This makes my heart happy.
    5. I don't over plan their lives.
    I will never pressure my kids into playing a sport or doing an activity they don't want to do. I will let them know I'm here supporting their decision in either direction even if it isn't the way I would want them to choose.

    I made it to 5… this is not easy. I think that is about all I can think of right now. Thank you for forcing me to think of something I wouldn't have normally even bothered with. I love your list by the way. ~

    • Liz Farris Post author

      Thank you for sharing your list, good job mamma! Want to come over and cook at my house 🙂

  4. Amy

    Love this!!! I think it is great exercise in thinking positive and recording our wins! There is the #rockingmotherhoodchallenge going around on Instagram and it is awesome to see so many moms thinking about their successes and encouraging each other. Enjoyed reading your list. Rock on!

    • Liz Farris Post author

      Thank you!! 🙂 Glad you enjoyed reading my list.

  5. Derika

    I set a goal to breastfeed for 2 years before my son was born. After the first week, I changed the goal to 1 month. Here we are 10 months later and I’m almost halfway at my original goal. I’m pretty proud!
    I also think it’s our job to take as many pictures as we can! We can’t get these moments back but having reflect on can come pretty close.

    • Liz Farris Post author

      Breastfeeding is a surprising thing, when you get the hang of it and yeah before you know it you’re doing it longer than you ever thought you could. You should be proud! Great job mamma!

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