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Meet Heather from Indiana
1. Introduce yourself:
My name is Heather and I live in Indiana. I have 6 biological children (including 2 sets of twins) and 2 adoptive children. My adoptive children are actually my sisters. I’ve raised them and they’ve been in my custody for 10 years; the oldest Jessica is 19 and the youngest Rayna is 15.
My biological children are aged 10 (Lee), 4 (fraternal twin girls Katelynn and Payton), 2 (Jaxson) and 1 (fraternal boy/girl twins Connor and Heidi). I have been a stay at home mom for the last 6 months. Prior to that, I was a dancer for 10 years.
Here’s a pic of all of us (the boy in the blue shirt is my husbands nephew).
2. Can you share some of your Badass parenting moments?
I feel like a Badass mom every time I take the kids out by myself, all 6 of them. Sometimes it’s just to the park. It is hard to keep an eye on all 6 at one time.
Or when I taught my oldest set of twins to potty train in just 3 days (lots of rewards and bribes but it got the job done), and of course when I have 4 kids whining to do something and the other 2 crying for a bottle and somehow I manage to calm them all down without running away!
I do a lot because my husband works a lot. He is absent from all doctor appointments or family outings unless they are planned weeks in advance.
3. Can you share what your typical day is like?
Our typical day when school is in starts at 7am. My husband and I wake up, and we get our older set of twins up along with our 10 year old. My 10 year old watches the 3 youngest as they sleep while I take the girls and my husband to work (30 minute round trip), he has my cell phone in case any problems arise.
Once I’m back home, my 10 year old gets ready for school and gets on the bus. Once the other 3 children wake up, I change diapers and pull up. I make breakfast for the 2 year old and prepare bottles for the 1 year old twins. Then the 2 year old plays with me or watches TV for a little while, and it’s nap time for the 1 yr old twins. Tuesdays the youngest has therapy at our house, then it’s lunch for all 3.
I get the older kids from school and do any shopping I need for dinner. I usually take them to the park if it’s nice out, or we come home and get in the trampoline until it’s time for me to make dinner. We eat then we play some more, and it’s bath time ( every other day, unless they need one every day from sweat or dirt). We settle down, watch a movie if we have time, then it’s bedtime. My husband doesn’t have a set time to get off work, sometimes he is there to help and sometimes he isn’t.
A typical day during the summer when school is out is a little different. We plan more things to do as a group. Pine Lakes fishing, camping, swimming, Mire Park and museum trips, but still sort of have a schedule for breakfast, lunch, snacks and dinner. We also have a later bedtime during summer break.
4. What’s some advice you would share with new twinmoms to survive the newborn stage?
My advice to other moms is to have patience. Even when everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong, remember to breathe and remember this too shall pass. On a typical day, I’m a referee and I yell when I’ve asked nicely 30 times and I still get ignored but then I remember it’s only temporary and I’ve learned to not worry about the small stuff. So my 2 year old has spilled his 6th drink of the day, oh well, it’s not the end of the world.
5. At what age did your twins start sleeping through the night? How did you sleep train them? What worked for you?
My first set of twins started sleeping through the night at about 7 months. I didn’t do anything special, I just fed them and gave them a bottle and they started sleeping throughout the night.
My younger set of twins haven’t been as easy. They are 1 and usually still wake up at least once for a bottle and then go right back to sleep. I never did the Cry It Out method. I don’t like to hear my babies cry, so I usually keep trying things until I figure out what they want.
6. How do you deal with temper tantrums?
Temper tantrums? I’ve experienced my fair share, enough for a couple moms actually. I try hard not to give in because then it sets an example for them to do it again in the future. If they continue to cry and we are out in public then I tell them “if you keep crying, we will leave.” If we are home and they continue to throw a fit, i tell them everybody has to take a nap if the crying continues. I will then count to 3. If I make it to 3 and they are still crying then i make them lay down or leave wherever we are.
7. What have you started teaching your twins, when did you start, how did you do it and how long did it take?
I like to teach my children through playing. We make up songs and we make up dances. I am also in the process of teaching my 1 year old’s to walk, and it’s a process I don’t have any advice on yet. Wish me luck!
Thank you again Heather for sharing your story!
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